Thanks for your response. I don't agree with you that a person is obligated to have sex with their spouse and I honestly don't want my wife to have sex with me out of obligation. I miss sex very much and I don't understand why my wife doesn't desire me like she did at one time, but I don't believe that the fact that she doesn't is all her fault. I know that I'm partially to blame and although I'm hurting I continue to love her unconditionally and do everything I can to let her know that. Maybe taking that approach won't fix the problem, but I'm hoping that it will and at the moment I honestly believe that it's my best option.
I try to avoid the sex argument with my wife because we've had it enough times that I now realize nothing good will ever come from it. I'm argumentative by nature and I always feel the need to prove my point. Once the argument starts I can't ever let it stop until we've both said things to each other that we regret. Although I'm about the nicest, most even-tempered person you could ever meet, I do get angry with my wife when we get into that argument. In fact I become a complete [censored]. I'm certain that having the argument won't help - I just wish I knew what would.
Having said all of this, please don't think that I don't appreciate your comments. I obviously don't have the answers or I wouldn't be here. Even if I don't completely agree with someone's advice, it helps to know how other people have dealt with this problem.
