Well of course there has to be a willingness to compromise. Nobody can promise to meet your every need, all they can promise is to put forth honest effort in meeting your needs to the best of their ability.
What you want is to feel wanted by your wife. You don't need to feel wanted every day, twice a day but a reasonable amount of desire on her part would be nice. I think we would be dealing with more unrealistic expectations to believe that any of us can develop the same level of libido. Libido, ebbs and wans, flows like the tide. I've never talked to a couple who were working at the same level at all times. If you are getting that need to feel desired met on a regular basis then you are going to be more understanding of her lack of desire when it comes up and be willing to do without.
A willingness to compromise and make adjustments is what sustains a marriage in my opinion. You shouldn't have to compromise to the point that you are completely doing without something that you need though. We have to meet each other half way. Cathy
