My background. H has come back. We moved back to our hometown and he is switching job so he will not have to go back where OW is. However, he still contacts OW, still have strong feelings for her, and is unable to cut off contact. He feels very guilty about dumping her. He tries everything to make me happy, be a family man, etc. But he is still contacting OW via phone calls and txt. I have no idea what they talk about and why she is OK with essentially taking crumbs from him. He agress that this cannot go on forever and he maintains that he will end it. But I don't see any signs of this happening.
So in response to JoieDeVivre's what to tell H. I said this (during one of our arguments), "....You are OK with this situation. She is OK with the current situation. I do want to be with you. However, I am NOT OK with this current situation...." I am planning to leave if he cannot end this soon.
