I never even thought about my concerns for her safety and well-being as being "controlling".
I realized my being "helpful" really meant I didn't think xh could do those things. I got the impression from your posts you might be thinking the same way.
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So anyway, would "going dark" still have any significance in my case, considering that I really have no other choice? Instead of my XW being intrigued by my sudden silence, she may believe that I would still be bothering her if not for the restraining order.
Absolutely. The thing here is, that if you don't completely back off, you're just confirming the idea that you're irrational and don't get the hint.
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I just call my daughter's cellphone from the driveway when I pick them up, and I stay in my car when I bring them back. I despise this arrangement, but I don't want to antagonize my XW any worse than I already have.
That sucks. Again, there's nothing you can do about it now. This may take a lot of time, by the way...
I'd even suggest not bringing up the subject with the kids. Don't talk about your xw at all. The point is, you want to completely drop the rope.
Whether or not you succeed in getting your xw's attention, doing these things will help you and your sanity.
Hope you had a good weekend.
