Newbie Needing Direction from Veterans--Help!

[justaboutdone]

Well, I've been half-ass DBing for 10 months or so and its gotten me nowhere. My husband claims he is only staying with me and in our house because he can't afford to move out--which is true. We were faking having an okay marriage for a few months but when I pushed and accused him of "stringing me along," he withdrew alot. He stopped touching me almost all together (except for the rare sexual interaction--usually somewhat initiated by me.) He actually acts as if I have cooties.

So now that he's withdrawn further. I don't know if I should continue to be his wife (even though he is not my husband)and do the things wives do or should I go dim so he has to see what he will lose when he does leave. I'm a planner and I need a plan as to how I'm going to act with him over the next year while we're paying down our debt.

Sometimes, I think he feels emasculated because he is not where he wants to be financially. We are no where near where people who make what we make should be as far as financial well-being. Is it possible that if we got our finances in order and he felt he had some of the things he wanted in life would he remember that he really does love me or are the finances just an excuse? My friends think he either loves me or doesn't and nothing else should affect that feeling. I know I'm not making any sense but I feel like I'm drowning.