Feel like I'm in a whirlwind today but it's good in a way.. at least I'm moving SOME direction. Backtracking a bit because I didn't fully reply to SD the other day..
SD Thanks for the hug (and the laugh). I'm leaving on Weds. for my little road trip and I am sooo looking forward to it. I will use that time to finish clarifying what I want but more and more, I think I need to be away from this house, from my H.. need to really see what life apart is like. I used to fear it, now I think it might be a relief.
I'm working on at least temporarily moving into another room. It's going to be really cramped but I think I can make it work with a small enough bed (maybe even a futon or something).
I'll think about that in Mendocino, thanks for the recommendation! I'm for sure doing Napa and will most likely drive up to Mendocino. It looks really beautiful. And some of the rooms aren't that pricey, especially for the area... and the say rates are lower during their slow times. I'm thinking Mid-week in fall is likely slow... hope so anyway! Thanks again.
Julie Thank you! Working on drumming that into my brain.
OT Basically lack of alternatives on where to sleep, but I am working on fixing that today. I tried to sleep on the couch both nights but woke up around 3ish with extreme back pain so ended up going to bed. I did some measuring today and am looking at beds this afternoon. I figure I'll get something cheap that I can use for now, and it can go into a guest bedroom if/when I move.
Donna Thanks for the hug!
ST Thanks. I absolutely agree I need to move on.
Maybe I am just not thinking clearly - but I know you and SD both said I should not move out. Why?
I don't plan to file unless I need to for financial reasons - will talk with a L about that. But I don't see any reason NOT to move at this point.
I think that H plans to stay in this house either way. If we D, he's already said he'll buy me out. I had thought about doing that but have changed my mind (I don't want to live here if we D). So, given that... I think the only way to move forward is for me to move. For now I'm working on a spare room until I can get things together enough for a real move. Am I just over-reacting?
I'm not deciding anything for sure until I have some time to think it through and talk to a L.. but I'm feeling like moving is the right choice.
So my priorities for this week... - Schedule L consult (I got a name of one today finally). - Schedule IC. I've left 3 messages over a week's time with no call back..grrr.. so I guess I have to start the whole insurance process over again to get a referral to yet another one. - Get the house appraised. - Set up a bedroom / space for myself. - Set up spa appointment and plan road trip. - Begin figuring out financial logistics and what my housing alternatives might be.
Am I missing anything?
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
