WAW1978-Part 5

[waw1978]

alk24

If at all possible, I think you should dress up. Have some with your with kids.

[Nomopo]

This year, S7 is going as Yoda, so now D4 is going to be Princess Leia. As I see it, I have no choice but to be Darth Vader (costume arrived this weekend; pretty cool).

W did not think my suggestion that she be Chewbacca or Jabba the Hut was nearly as funny as S7 and I did. D4 tried to smooth things over by suggesting W could be Padme.

Nomo

PS - May the force be with you!

[waw1978]

Now thats funny!

There is always C3PO

Darth Vader. Thats sooo cool.

[waw1978]

Weekend:

Had D4 all weekend. Nice to not be lonely.

The dreaded Family party yesterday...or should I say the Spanish inquisition. Its really hard to explain to an old fashioned family that sometimes things just aren't going to work. Esp hard when they all feel that you stick it out no matter what. Your spouse drinks, its okay. They hit you, thats okay. They cheat, its okay. Everyone stays, no matter how miserable they are. Which just makes the cycle go around...they more miserable, the more they eat, they more the booze, drug and cheat. All the while everyone is pretending that everything is OKAY!

So I step out of line. I am changing my life. I am not going to be miserable. I am not taking a lover. I am not going to drink myself into the oblivion because my H doesn't desire me.

Come on here this is 2007 right? I have a career, a degree, a good head on my shoulders. Why is this separation and what not so scary to these people?

I asked my Dad...If it really goes belly up...Can't I just take a Mulligan?

There's my humor for today.

[Heimlich]

Come on here this is 2007 right? I have a career, a degree, a good head on my shoulders. Why is this separation and what not so scary to these people?

Imagine how hollow their lives look if you live yours to the fullest. Screw 'em.

[chicki]

WAW,

I was away this weekend & at my cousins baby shower when she told my mother she will hook me up w/ one her H's freinds. I was just waiting for my mom's reply of "oh know she is still M",blah, blah, but she didint! She smiled and said oh your finding one just like your H? Her H is terrfic, I think she won the lotto there. He is Mexican and very much the family man. My cousin is pregnat w/ twins (in vitro b/c she is 41, not b/c she cant have). She has had four kids fine,but her H died some time ago. This man really wants kids of his own even though he loves hers as his own...

Whenever I mention me dating to my mom she gives me a lecture even though she absolutley feels only hatred towards my H.

[waw1978]

Exactly! However this works out, recovered M or the Big D. My life will be fulfilled.


I actually have an Aunt who has been waiting for husband to die for the last 5 years. No joke. He has been a PIA for the last like 25-30 years, she cannot stand him but won't divorce him. Since he had a major heart malfunction about 5 years ago in has been in a nursing home and refuses to partake in his own recovery. So she dutifully brings him fried foods and cartons of cigarettes each week. Another distateful family joke. That she is killing him slowly and legally.

[waw1978]

You know Chicki

I am hearing it more and more from others. If this M really goes South, cannot be saved then there are plenty of other "good fish in the sea". My Mom of course wants more grandkids and keeps pointing out that if I "do this right" I could have a husband and a family unit again in my future.

I can't help but chuckle as I am one of those, why would I ever get married again types...I joke with friends that i may have a commitment ceremony or something where the last line is until boredom or dislike do we part.

Never again, will I swear before God, 300 people and a court of law to be with the same person forever. I just don't think its possible anymore. Slap my inner pessimist!

[Heimlich]

until boredom or dislike do we part.

LOL. Oh, c'mon, that's just your current situation talking. You're too young to be that cynical. Plus, if you didn't think it were possible to stay with one person forever, you wouldn't be here and still interested in saving your M

BD

[waw1978]

I was just saying if this one doesn't last then I won't be doing it again!


Still trying to hang on here. But if it fails...I will probably be a bitter pessimist.