I'm looking for some advice. My situation is described in the previous posts. It's been over 3 weeks since I read The Sex-Starved Marriage and since that time I've tried my best to be a wonderful husband. And I've done pretty well - I've been helping my wife any way that I can, I've completely avoided talking about romance and intimacy (hence no sex argument), I've refrained from pouting, I haven't been critical, and I've taken an interest in communicating with my wife about things that are going on with her. Since Valentine's Day I've even brought home flowers twice for no reason at all, expecting nothing in return. We're getting along very well with one exception - still nothing romantic - no kissing, cuddling, sex, etc.
I'm now getting depressed, which makes me worry that I'll eventually say something to her - which of course would start the sex argument and the whole process would start again. I still plan not to say anything, but when I get depressed I have a hard time hiding it, she asks me what's wrong, and I eventually let loose. Something I stated in a previous post was that when I'm doing good to keep my mouth shut and act happy, I'm afraid she thinks the problem has gone away when actually I'm hurting badly on the inside. I know from experience that talking to her about the situation won't help. Should I write her a letter, being very careful about what I say. What could I say that might make a difference? I think it would help greatly if she'd read The Sex-Starved Marriage - should I ask her to do that for me? If I don't write the letter or say anything to her, how long might it be before things begin to change? I realize nobody knows the answer to that - I'm just kind of getting my thoughts out there. I'd appreciate any feedback.
