Cuz they are super nice and my comfort factor would be significant, I almost know, though, if I do that, W and I will be making "real" arrangements for being S / toward D? As I will probably just want to be at "my" house vs the other way around. I also know that "our" house will begin to deteriorate without me keeping it up. Not smart if I want it to retain the value so I am sure "type A CVA" won't let that happen either. I will just be more stretched/ tired.
Bottom line, I don't know which way I am leaning. All I know is I want to got to the wine bar w/ Nomo thursfay night!!!
C
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
I almost know, though, if I do that, W and I will be making "real" arrangements for being S / toward D? As I will probably just want to be at "my" house vs the other way around.
Are you saying that you hanging around her house all the time is keeping her from filing?
Originally Posted By: CVA
I also know that "our" house will begin to deteriorate without me keeping it up. Not smart if I want it to retain the value so I am sure "type A CVA" won't let that happen either. I will just be more stretched/ tired.
Um, CVA, can't you hire people to keep the place up? Does it have to be you? I understand you want the kids' house to be nice and to protect your investment, but why do you have to do all the work yourself?
Originally Posted By: CVA
All I know is I want to got to the wine bar w/ Nomo thursfay night!!!
Next time my brother goes to rehab at TIRR, I'll see if I can go down. Wine bar. Yeah, baby!
Seriously, CVA, you are status quo with the W for months. Not good, not bad. You have been in an apartment and being family guy for months exept that you don't sleep in the same house as your family. Sorry, that's not a family.
Question: is the continued massages in the thin PJs getting you closer to where you want to be? Maybe it is and giving your W the space she needs is how you're going to get back together. On the other hand, going to "your" house daily (when you're not in Canada) to play family -- is that moving you closer to reconciliation? You're gettign closer to looking at buying another house, that might start giving your W the emotional space she needs to start really thinking about you and yuor R.
I'll conclude by saying that I've had a wee bit of whiskey (geaux Saints, 1-4, woohoo) and am currently watching the Big Lebowksi, which further encourages adult beverage consumption for me.
Anyway, you need to walk that fine line of not pushing but showing your W that you're preparing to move forward. If I come up with any brilliatn ideas to help you with that, I'll let you know. Just my 1 penny at the moment.
BD
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Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
As u can tell by month more limited posting about myself, still have my "moments" but I can see the light at the end of the tunnel, whatever light that may be shining on. I get out of negative moods pretty quickly and the overall ups/downs are more even keel.
Puddle, what I meant was if I get the house, it will feel more like being S/D'd cuz I won't be around as much if any and will definitely be a "major" shift from where we are now. Don't know what the ramifications good/bad from that will be so just continuing to think about it.
H I don't know where the thin pjs get me other than its fun for 20 minutes! The ladies on this thread tell me for women that massage is about as close as u can get to umm, you know, but I really have no clue.
C
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
I still think you need to make some type of move on the housing front. Your W is cake eating. She has you around most of the time but yet your are not sleeping there. I don't think she will feel the sting until you are totally not spending time at the family residence. This will mean packing up the kids and taking them with you to your place. She needs to feel what it will really be like. This drove it home for me.
As you know what happened in my case, the sitch got flipped.
I think you should either pull the trigger with the flip house or get the larger apt. Being an investment rep I would go with the undervalued flip myself.
I really feel if you continue on this path it could go on forever. Your W needs to start making some choices. Either work on the M, not work on the M but figure it out. You have done too much work on yourself to be hanging in limbo forever!
Me: 30 EX-H: 37 DD: 5 Separated 6/07. MC for months, EX-H quit MC. Divorce Final 8/14/08. Trying to move on with new life.
Waw, I still contend that you are only technically a waw. Your H has NEVER wanted to work on the M with you, which you have always been open to. You left, but only to save your sanity and only after actually telling him your were unhappy. If my W had done that, I wouldn't be here.
He didn't flip the script. He's just continuing to try to control you.
I now return to our previously scheduled PJ and headlights conversations.
BD
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Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
