I know this prolly wasn't intended to get a laugh, somehow it seems funny to me today, how at the beginning we almost pass out from fear thinking about them issuing a death blow/negative evaluation to us or the R. Now, we can hardly wait to say, "You know, you're right."
It is kinda funny. I think we've all come a long way in that sense. I feel like I was going along in my M, thinking things were basically solid, then wham! WTF? But once I got my head around the fact that I'm not going to curl up and die because H doesn't want to be with me and realized I get to choose my own life, my own happiness, it was really quite freeing. And yes, now I just want to call him and say, "Hey, H, I've been thinking..."
But I won't. Patience patience patience. It'll come up on its own, he'll hear it or he won't, and it's going to be okay.
Originally Posted By: warm&sunny
You are one quick study Puddle!
I appreciate the fact that H has given me the time to get my head around this before moving out, and I'm with Homer: I'm not in love with pain. I don't want to be in limbo for months and months or even years. The M may be over or not, the R may be over or not, but either way, no sitting on my laurels. It helps, also, that I don't like H very much right now. Not needing is easy when you don't even want.
Now if he changed his mind, I'd really have a dilemma!
Originally Posted By: warm&sunny
How short term was the Rockin therapy that you attended? Was it like a solution based therapy, or something with a different twist?
It was Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), which, I don't believe is officially "solution-based." There's tons about it online, and I think the average stint is something like 10--12 weeks, though I think I went for about 6 months before I felt like I was done. It really put me in good stead to deal with this sitch, I believe.
Take care, sunny. I hope you do make your day great, despite H and the hole he's dug.
