For my own situation, I am creating (in writing) a "scorched earth" policy for dealing with this. It's a list of things that I intend to do in the event she files for divorce. Some are minor (stop wearing wedding ring), some more significant.
I, too, am growing weary of the charade. My wife also needs a wake-up call. The things that I have in mind will indeed wake her up. And they may drive her away.
