Thanks for your reply. I won't say it's been easy because it hasn't been, but things are definitely better than they were 6 months ago. If I could do things over again, I don't know if I would have filed for divorce when I did, but I didn't find DB until after it was final. My XH called me the night before our court date asking me to postpone it. He was still with OW, so I went through with it, but since then he has made a significant effort in trying to work things out. I know if I would have left it up to him to file, we would still be married, but then I think things would have taken much longer to get to the point we are at now. It really does no good to second guess what has transpired, so I trust that things work out the way they are supposed to.
I think he is really nervous about being affectionate because of tremendous guilt. I didn't see him yesterday because he was sick but I talked to him four times. I feel really good about things right now, but realize we still may have some setbacks as he is not home yet. I decided this weekend that I'm going to take things slow and not rush as far as the affection goes, but when you've basically had no physical "connection" for over a year, it's hard to be patient!
I appreciate your taking the time to reply. I wish you the best in your situation and hope things work out for you.
