If they work together H's attitudes to the order of things may well change. As may the W's.

It seems from what she has says things have gotten a bit better since their conversation so maybe she should give it some healing/truce time before working on resolving outstanding issues.

Spending some time on the boards may also help her.

Saffie

Saffie
me 46
H 46
M in 1986
D20,D18,S16,D13
H's A 01/05 to 07/06
H recommitted to M 07/06
renewed vows 09/06
Going from strength to strength