I don't pretend to know everything because the fact is that I don't. But one thing I believe is that I messed up in my marriage and, while not completely at fault, was sufficient to be enough of a factor to encourage my wife to leave because she apparently had the propensity to leave. When I read all of these posts and the wonderful one I just read by "poohbear", I realize that I can never give up. And I need to remind myself that every day. If there is the slightest chance that my best friend and wife will ever return, I need to do whatever is right to get to that point. I have already made mistakes because of my emotions and the lack of change necessary to be the husband she needed. So, giving up would be compounding one more mistake on top of all the others that I have made. Anything else would be an excuse for me.

Thank you to everyone for their posting. Please keep them coming.


Me:56, W:51
D:26,S:24,S:22
Married:18
Bomb 9/27/06
Separated 11/27/06
Divorced 10/6/08
Leaving it up to God