How is it going? Fred and I decided it was over and not worth fighting all the time. We told the kids we were going to get divorced and they were extremely upset of course. Then Fred said he hadn't realized I cared until the day we told the kids (because I was crying and I usually don't cry). Therefore he was willing to do whatever it took to make us happy. My mind was still going in circles and was so confused. My feelings were all over the place! The long and the short of it is that we are going to stay together until the kids are out of school and try to work on our marriage in the meantime. If it gets better by then, then of course we will stay together. If it doesn't get better then we will go our separate ways but atleast the kids won't be torn by it. Right now it's alot better just because we are not fighting all the time. That removes alot of the stress in itself. I just hope he can get his priorites straight, that's all. I want to be in a better financial situation and I want his priorities to go like this: 1--Kids.......2--Our family of four.........3--Me and 4--Everyone else (extended family, friends, etc.). He said he could definitely put the kids first (as he always does), which is great in my eyes, but he's not sure if he can meet my needs by prioritizing in that order. He said he likes to help people and that's why he's not sure if he can put me ahead of all of them if he feels they need him. So, that's one of our big dilemmas. Time will tell I guess. I am still upset that he let me tell the kids and got them all upset, then said he wanted to still work it out. There are many things I need to get over and deal with but it seems like he doesn't want to discuss those things because "we fight", which is another concern to me to "MOVE FORWARD". Things need to be resolved to move forward otherwise if ignored, they will revisit, that's for sure. So, I don't know what to do right now other than keep the peace. I hope you are still doing well. Talk to you soon, Laura
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
