Advice; should i do LLRT if H still sees ow

[saffie]

I did read your post and I totally understand what you are feeling.

I wouldn't go down the software route - if he found out he would get really mad - cheating or not cheating he would get mad - well my H would at me spending money on something like that anyways.

Why not ask him if you can book him a doctors appointment and see if he will let you- or even you go to the doctors yourself and talk generally to them about stress and alcohol and sex issues. They must have some leaflets etc they could give you to give to your H.I know thay can't talk to you about your H specifically but they can talk around the subject generally at the doctors.

Whilst you are feeling calmer work on YOU don't get too tied up in if there is another W involved. I know it is easy for me to say this as I know where I am now. I wouldn't have been able to not snoop if I suspected my H of doing something. I think I was lucky that I didn't ever suspect enough to snoop - that H told me. BUT I can see why not snooping is a good call. I would only snoop now if I knew that I would be willing to split if my H was with OW. I know this is the case as I don't check up on H which I thought I would maybe do. I still don't trust him 100% - don't know if I ever will - but as I still want to be with him and he appears to want to be with me I'm not snooping. It takes time to reach that place though. You have to be able to see the reasons for not snooping for yourself. It has to come from within.

Nina, I am at home ironing. I shall be on and off the boards. If you want to talk let me know. Txt me or something.

I know it's hard.

(((((HUGS)))))

Saffie