Hi, just a quick update. I've been a lot warmer towards him. He seems to be responding quite well. I spoke to him at the week-end, about our sex life(we haven't for almost 5 months). I said in a very nice way that i miss our physical relationship. I said i missed the closeness. He agreed and said that he hasn't felt particulary sexual recently. I said maybe it's all the stress he's under. I said we don't have to go the whole hog just be close and playful and take our time. He said that was fine, but did say he doesn't want to be pressured. I said ok. I also said that if he thinks it's a stress problem, maybe he should go to the doctors. He didn't disagree.
Now my feelings are that, yes it could be stress, too much drinking. However in the back of my mind i'm thinking in all of the 10 years we've been together. He has never gone off sex. He starts a R with someone else and he goes off me. Okay he's never addmitted an A,but as you know there is strong evidence that there has been. I find myself going through phases of being obsessed about whats going on. Last week i was on the internet looking for key logging softward and tracking devices. I'm just desperate to find out what the bloody hell is going on. I've calmed down a bit this week, but the erge is very strong. I know people say focus on yourself and don't focus on what you can't control, but i really, really, really want to know what the hell i'm up against.
