I'm pondering and will respond to your question later this week. Also will try to catch up on your sitch. Any special place I should look? Oh, the short, oversimplified answer I'd give now, late at night is this.
You asked about the issue/question of
Detaching and why it does Not somehow lessen the chances of reconciling ---(b/c our natural instinct is to pursue that which we feel we are losing...even in the face of overwhelming evidence that pursuing is a BAD idea in the sitch....for example, b/c it AIN'T WORKING)))))
One analogy to one method of 'Detaching' ---may mean you need to shut a door to the hall at night, so the light doesn't keep waking you up and interfering with your sleep. But it doesn't mean you lock the door, or that you wouldn't open it, if the right person knocked on it the right way...OR 2) Swimming to the "island" of freedom and detachment, doesn't mean you can't someday return to the mainland, but it often means that you have to stop looking back at the shore b/c it slows down your swim to the island, may even drown you, and does Nothing to actually get you back to shore...
enough metaphors for now. I'm really tired, but I have not forgotten...
Later buddy, j-
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