Still trying to win WAW back (#2)

[Sara]

Dave,

This is good news. Don't listen to what she is saying. Look at what she does. Keep your mouth shut for a month. Accept your fate as is.....get to Retrouvaille. If she stays and does the work there, she can't keep her heart closed. DO NO TELL HER THAT. Your position has improved. Don't let her know that.

[DaveJ]

I definitely do not understand how she can say God is giving her guidance that she should start new without me. That certainly does not sound like something God would say at all.... In Mathew God specifically says that divorce should be only used if there is adultery involved..... I certainly have never cheated on her....

[DaveJ]

Sara, thanks for the encouragement. I will have faith and keep praying for us. Whatever happens it's God's will....

[Sara]

If God speaks to her, he'll be singing a different tune at Retrouvaille.

[Sara]

Sign up for Retrouvaille immediately. Do not give her a chance to change her mind. She is correct, what they teach will be helpful in case of a divorce. But it is the rare couple that does not rekindle their love at Retrouvaille. I'm not saying that it doesn't happen. I'm just saying it is rare.

[DaveJ]

I already signed up. Just need to send in the check. You write it to the sponsor couple right?

[Sara]

I don't know who we made the check out to. If you write to them, they will turn it over. Everyone is very honest there.

[Sara]

You will have such a good opportunity there to speak from your heart to her, and have her listen with her heart. And vice versa. Without another love in the wings, I don't see how she could keep the heart closed. But in the meantime, keep that down in the dumps thing going. Make her think you have accepted defeat. And just accept everything she says. When you get there, they will give you both rules for discussing. At that point it will become fair and you can really say what you are feeling. Until then just swallow it.

[DaveJ]

Thanks Sara. Her wanting to immediately start casual dating does annoy me. Apparently she say since she has mourned the loss of our R for 2 years that this breakup isn't impacting her like it's impacting me and that she's ready. Grrrrr..... Hopefully nothing happens before Retro....

[DaveJ]

Hmm....I guess she said she won't start doing the dating before Retro. So at least there's some hope. She said she thinks this building of friendship may really have possibilities for us. I just so wish she would hold off on the dating and give us a little bit more time. Oh well, one day at a time and God will sort things out....