so...W has agreed to go to Retrouvaille. Unfortunately her heart is closed. I think she wants to go to improve our communications for the kids. Hope by some miracle it will change her mind. But I very much doubt that when someone's heart is that closed. I pray to God that he does performs a miracle. Of course you never know how God makes things work out... Sara, what do you think?
She wants to really work on our friendship, which isn't a bad thing. Maybe eventually later on she'll open up.... At least the "I need space" ban has been lifted. I can see the kids more when I want and can contact her whenever I want. I've agreed to a legal separation instead of divorce until our D is in school (couple years). That way she can be on my medical insurance and I can provide for her until she gets a full time job. We both want our daughter be able to spend time with their mother and not have to stay at a daycare. We will share custody of the kids. I can have them whenever I want according to her. Of course she wants to be able to date other people during that time. I guess it's not much different than a divorce except in legal terms.
Not that it matters but the MIL is on my side. She's definitely not happy with W's decisions. I will continue to talk to her whether the W and I are divorced or not.
Guess I will look to Nugget for inspiration and guidance since now I will be in similar sitch as he is.... *sigh* and here I thought things were slowly progressing positively and all of a sudden everything changed....
M: 31 W: 31 M: 7 T: 8 S:4 D:2 Bomb dropped: too many to count or remember, 12/17/07 last one S on 9/2/07 W sent off D papers 12/31/07. Me trying to live life and hope she returns one day.
