W was at home Sat night and told me she was going to her sisters over the long week end , I asked if she was taking D with her to which she said no why should I ?( in an annoyed manner ). Now a bit of background , trips to her sisters have in the past been a front for her A and a means to do whatever. I was real tired and just said " I am not thick you know" . To which she stormed out of the house. mmmmm.
The next day when she came to pick up D she didnt hang about but did leave a letter for me. It was full of anger , saying what I had implied hurt her and that I was making her decision of whether to return home or not easy and some other stuff about how I get to do what I want etc.
I sat on this for a while and just sent her a message saying that I was sorry and I understand . Left it at that for now.
What do I make of that ? Remember none of this stuff has been discussed with her yet. , firstly I didnt know she was considering returning , and what makes her think its her decision alone?
How is anything going to work if she cant let me make the odd mistake and have doubts without threats.
Now when she was having an A these threats were what she used when I expressed my worries ( a good defence being an offence).
I would like to tell her this stuff but feel like a little kid who wants a toy but thinks he will never have it , The little kid is naughty and his parents tell him they were going to give him the toy but now they are not.
While I would like to discuss all this with W now is not the time its back to my Goals.
I have to say it has affected me though , and I am annoyed that I have let it.
