A few slips here and there but, I think overall the days worth of conversation between the two of you was beneficial. There is a better understanding now of how each of you feel. And you are right. She needs to vent her feelings. She needs to express the anger she has inside for your actions. That is part of her healing process.
I am glad you are handling her comments about how you should (in her opinion) interact with the girls in a more positive manner.
Seems as if things ARE starting to gel for you.
“Do you want to be RIGHT or want to be LOVED” “You have to have a life to share a life with someone” “When you stop resisting, you start learning”