How bad does it have to be to say "I know my kids won't resepct me when they grow up" Why would they? He walked out on their mom, for someone else. ow could they respect him. I have had some issues with that in a way. I did mention that I tried to check out in March 06, because I had become totally unglued by the prospect of D. Was that my fault. Damn right. 100%. W. of course told my kids what I had done, when she herself feels it's OK to lie to kids at times. I do as well. I'd never admit to my kids that I drank in high school. She could have morpherd what I had done as well, although she was under no obligation to do so.
Anyhow, I've had to work hard to get some respect back from my kids, especially my older ones who ask how I could have done what I did. Fair question. I know now that they are very proud of me because I'm in Iraq, because they have told me so. My D14 told me that more than anyone, she would never want to dissappoint me, so I've gained some of that back.
I'm hoping I can explain how I was just emotionally broken and sad beyond belief to be losing the thing I loved most; my family.
Your husband will NEVER be able to make it right with his kids if he doesn't wake up. What's up with his self-pity? They won't respect you?????? HELLO!!! Who's fault is that???????
Most affairs, like many relationships lose their glow after a while. When you use the same commode and wake up with bad breath and messy hair, and have to balance a budget then comes the working part. The glitter of a "New woman" will wear off, and then what??? You've cut your life line, bozo!
Stay strong, continue to be a good mom, look forward to Halloweeen as best you can. You've got your kids with you 24/7. That's the best part here!
