Another weekend visit from the ex in the books. She came up Thursday morning and we attended a concert that evening. She and our son had a good time and I faked it the best I could. It wasn't my kind of music but that is a 180 for me since before I would have refused to go.
We shopped on Friday while our son was in school...went to dinner and a high school football game. Our son is in a K-12 school so he likes going to the games even though he is only a fifth grader.
Our son had a football game Saturday morning so the ex got to see him play for the first time. It was a big treat for them both. We hung around the house all afternoon and I graciously bowed out Saturday night so they could spend some quality time together.
She left this morning after a rather tasty breakfast I prepared. Another 180 since I never cooked while we were married. I'm still learning but can now prepare a few things that aren't in a box.
All in all she seemed to have enjoyed her visit. I do sense that no progress was made...in fact my gut instincts tell me the opposite occurred. I may be over analyzing things a bit but I have been blessed with fairly good intuition and things didn't seem quite right this time. The first being a request that our son spend Christmas with her this year. I agreed since he spent last year with me but I would have suspected a thought pattern that would include all three of us if she were thinking positively.
She received several text messages and phone calls during her stay. Interestingly, she would comment about who they were from but some of them I had doubts about. There is just a way that I can tell that is difficult to explain when something doesn't add up. Maybe it is her tone or reflection of her voice. I act "as if" and don't even comment about it.
There is no doubt she wants to protect my feelings so if the OM is who she is communicating with, there isn't any way she would ever be truthful about it.
I received the obligitory hug goodbye and a thank you for letting her stay at my home. No comment about having a good time as in the past and no kiss this time. Our son walked out to the car with us so I knew that wasn't going to happen.
I didn't do a whole lot of touching this time around so I can't judge how receptive she would have been to that. I did mention an activity that the three of us could do next month but she didn't acknowledge any interest.
So unfortunately I feel she is shutting off the switch and creating some distance. This has happened before when she would state she wanted her family back together then a couple of months later state she just misses our son and doesn't want me. Maybe this is normal behavior to withdraw some when things seem too comfortable. It has been 5 months since I stood up and made it clear that I'm ready to make us work. It has been 1 year since her first call begging me to take her back.
