Hi, Help me out. H and I had a really good couple of days. Now I'm being tortured by something.
A couple of weeks ago I heard him on the phone with OW. She is planning a trip to see her daughter. He was helping her find airfare online. I was in the same room for a few minutes when he was talking to her which is how I know. But I left as I really didn't want to hear, and told myself to act as if. I never asked about it.
Last night he told me a good friend of his who recently moved south has offered to pay his airfare to come help him with a project (working on one of his old cars). I know H has helped this guy in the past, when he still lived here.
So now my mind is going round and round. I can't help but wonder if this is just not an elaborate lie. She is planning a trip and now H has let on that he may be taking some trip. I'm guilty of fearing the worst. My mind won't stop and now I'm thinking he could be planning a trip with OW. There's something suspicious about some circumstances.
So what do I do if, in the near future, this trip to help this friend becomes a reality? Do I not say anything? I'm not sure I can do that.
I think he's been fairly open and honest to some degree with me lately. So I do ask to go along? Do I ask for proof that he is taking this trip to really help this friend? I could ask that this guy call me to confirm.
I'm a person of high integrity. If, and I realize this is a big if at this point (this could be nothing) this is an elaborate lie to go away with OW, I don't think I can take it. There is only so much I can accept.
Again, how should I proceed if this trip falls into place sometime in the near future? I keep telling myself I'm making mountains out of something that could be nothing. I keep telling myself to STOP the thoughts.
