Nikki-I have gone thru your post-it's a lot to digest and I am off to show homes shortly.
Things are getting worse. H showed up at the house yesterday. Called from the house, discussed our DD with me and said "I still don't know what I am doing tonight-are you busy?" I said I hadn't figured it out yet.
I get home, he's doing karaoke. We talk more about DD. I do some work. He was friendly, but not like before. I asked if he had told me he was coming over and he said no. We watch tv. He snuggles up with me; but still it doesn't feel like it did before. Watch tv til 1am. Go up to bed. He starts to get frisky. I 'ruin the moment' because I don't just go for it. He rolls over on his back and I lay my head on his chest and eventually he says "What are you thinking?"
I tell him that I was thinking about how I don;t like that he just showed up and then expects sex; that he didn't date or court me. He says "So I have to tell you ahead of time what I am doing?" And I said "to me, dating and courting means making plans--showing up unannounced and expecting sex seems like booty call." Then he goes "Well, I wasn't even sure I was spending the night. I didn't bring my overnight bag." (What that has to do with anything I am not sure.) Anyway, he said something with the gist of not wanting to plan and I said "that's fine. If that's how you "roll" and you don't want to make advance plans with me, that is your choice." H "So, what does that mean to me?" and I said (not in a mean way) "Well, that means 'no soup for you'" He gives me a look of 'whatever-no loss' and goes "ok. that's fine." And rolls over.
WTF happened? I am leaving to go show homes today (he asked what happened to me scheduling the showings for Saturday and I said that my clients preferred Sunday and I wasn't really clear on what was happening this weekend so I left it be) so there won't be any further discussions for several hours. In other words, I have time to get my head together (and hopefully someone will have some insight.) My head is spinning because a week and half ago, things were peachy.
FYI-He doesn't know I have been looking at houses for me. I haven't broached that subject.
Insight?
Last edited by Agent99; 10/14/0703:59 PM.
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
