Rollar Coasters are no longer fun

[ediemarie]

I feel guilty for thinking this but I feel so much like part of this is a show to see which woman will break and toss him out first so he doesnt have to make the decision. I feel like he is so incapable of making a decision that he is trying to push it off on us. I don't know... Just feel that way.

Yup, you got it. You are right on target. If she gave him up he would be by you in no time...just to repeat this behavior, again. If you gave him up, he'd be by her and repeating this behavior with her. You don't have to fight for him, Amy. He is your husband. She will always be the other woman. Even if he left you for her, their relationship began out of an adulterous affair. There is no purity in that. All this to say that this is his deal. This is his decision. This is his life.

I am glad he is getting help. Don't question yourself about moving your children out of that situation. You did what you were supposed to do - protect your kids. If your kids don't underrstand that now, they will eventually. They will also one day thank you for it. It's tough to see your kids hurting so badly, but this is your H doing this to them. It's not you.

We, as humans, are pretty resilient. We all have the ability to heal. Focus on healing as your H focuses on healing. What are you going to do for yourself now, Amy? What are you going to do to make yourself more at home where you are? You have to focus on making yourself happier. I know it is difficult. I know it hurts. Amy you can do this! Do something to put a smile on your face today.

Hugs