It reminds me of the marriage encounter weekend my wife and I went to shortly after she dropped the bomb on me. They said most people feel that in a relationship you contribute 50/50 and that is a recipe for failure. If you give 50% expecting the other 50% from your spouse, you could wait indefinitely. The other spouse, feeling the same way may not appreciate what you are doing and do absolutely nothing or maybe 10 - 20% or any other percentage they feel sufficient. It ends up being a situation of complete selfishness. Instead, they say you should give 100% into the marriage and not worry about what the spouse does. The spouse will more than likely start following your example and become less selfish and care about how much they can contribute unselfishly to the marriage.
Isn't that what we try to teach our children? To not worry about what other people do and to do the right thing without expectation?
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
