Somehow we need to find a common ground. One that says I need you but I'm not dependent on you. I think I have showed my W that I am no longer dependent on her so now I carefully need to show her she is still needed. Now be careful on the definition of need here. I mean it more as "wanted" not needed as “I can't live with out ya”.
Ok mark you got your smarts back. THIS IS REALLY TRUE. Even though my sitch is mild compared to yours I feel the same way.
Wise words. Right now, she is waaaaay too focused on herself and getting what she wants and having things her way to see that I am getting on with things for my own benefit. I know, it takes time.
But, as I said in a private message to another DBer, my wife is behaving like there is no tomorrow because she knows that I am still willing to save the marriage. I am her safety net. Once she figures out that I have made the conscious act of detaching, that I believe that my happiness is not dependent in any way on her presence, her love, or her approval, only then will I be able to draw her back to me. I'm working on that.
Next thought:
Ok mark you got your smarts back. THIS IS REALLY TRUE. Even though my sitch is mild compared to yours I feel the same way. See we are not so far apart.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
