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[Jen_Jam]

DB'ing worked for me.

Brief synposis:
Sept 2005 - ILYBINILWY, moved into friends flat. Occasional staying the night, but in the spare room
Nov2005 - H moved back, I thought bad times were over and wanted PAYBACK!!! My old habits of shouting and demanding were still there.
March 2006 - ILYBINLWY, "I cannot stay married to you", "my feelings have gone, there is nothing I can do about that", "I care about your feelings" (later admitted this was a lie), "I cannot help the way I feel".

It was this time I found the DR book and it was a LIFE SAVER! (Literally at one point). Last summer - 2006 - was one of my happiest ever. H still didn't love me but **I** loved me.

Sept 2006 - H admitted "most" of our problems were over, btu he didn't feel sexual towards me, but did want to work on the marriage.

Oct 2006 - I went into depression, needed IC.

Spring 2007 - I nearly became a WAW. I had worked darned hard, our R was stronger but not quite there, I had stepped up to the mark but H hadn't. I decided if he couldn't be the man I wanted then well....

Summer 2007 - H stepped up to the mark. Life is now sweet and happy. But the BEST thing of all of this is that I have finally conquered my low self esteem. That's my golden ticket, the restored and improved M is a bonus.