Instead, Why didn't I make our home a warm welcoming place that he wanted to return to? Partly because I thought he'd take me more for granted and somehow I believed that if I "rewarded" him for working late, he'd continue to do so and treat us worse. You know, maybe if I had realized that it wasn't a likely result, OR that even if that did happen, and somehow he changed nothing, at least It'd have been more pleasant for those of us at home. The important point is, that my negative approach was a failure and yet I continued with it.
What a smack in the face.....and it doesn't even need to be specific to working late...it could be anything. Because of this statement, I am thinking of the things that I didn't do because it was his job to do. I resented like h*ll that he didn't do it and I wouldn't do it because then he would have me continue to do it. And I did plenty around here, thankyouverymuch....I didn't need to do "his" stuff too.
Why did I approach this is such a negative way? Why did I assume that he was just being lazy, or thoughtless?
Thanks for the wakeup call, 25 years! Powerful post!
