H and I married 21 years MLC 2 1/2 years separated 1 year, asked for D July 2006 D stopped Oct 2006 back together May 2007. We are both so relieved to be back together and it is so different from before. One thing you learn is never to take each other for granted. In my opinion true MLC is definately the "bomb" drop and an equally sudden realisation that they want to come back. My Hs MLC was compounded with PTSD too which made it even yuckier! There was OW but not in this country so made life a little easier (but not much) to deal with. It isn't really the physical side of having OW that bothers it is the fact that your soul mate and bestfriend is now confiding with OW more than you. That really hurt. Anyway anyone who read my Hs vitriolic post on here knows how deep in MLC he was so I hope this gives some hope to others.