H has left have I Done the right thing

[Evie]

Thankyou all for your supportive comments and sympathtic ears.

Its been a long day...

99 - i agree with everything you said, i needed you to be firm and stop my pity party. You explained it a whole lot better than me. I didn't have the discussion as a way of manipulating him, I knew I couldn't continue as things were. Things just seemed to have reached stalemate and although we weren't moving backwards, we also were not making progress and as you said my life was/is on hold. I had to consider him all the time as he was living in the house. I know all he wants is to be friends and everything be amicable, but hell i'm hurting and yes while i want a good r with him, i would like him to feel guilty for the pain he is causing.


Mkultra - r u suggesting that he may be seeking approval to sleep with ow? (I wasn't sure, but in the beginning i did think there was ow, i don't think there is now). I'm not ready to start dating, if he knew I was doing that then he would deem it ok to do the same and that would tip me over the edge, it's all to raw atm. I need him to mess up and maybe make a mistake, start to feel quilty, i said i would never ask him to leave that he would have to go of his own accord, but then look what i've gone & done.


H sat down with D's (I wasn't there)and explained he was moving out and why.

I feel as if I am handling it ok, I feel empowered by the fact that I have asked him to leave, rather than it be his choice to go. Hasn't stop me having a wobbly just and having a huge cry.

He said to D's that he has worked so hard and put in so many hours also the pressure from buying the property abroad that the pressure from it all has clouded his judgement and he has lost sight of what was important to him. He told them he loved me but not as a husband should love his wife. He cried while he told them this (very rare emotion for him, so important to mention).

He has just called to speak to s's, we spoke for a bit, I felt he was waffling, he sounded very tired and I guess he his feeling an emotional wreck. He is coming round tomorrow evening and sitting the boys down and telling them.

I don't think now that there is any hope of his coming home now. I had to do the dirty job, he was to spineless to do it, but it's what he wanted and i'm sure once the dust settles he will adapt and be happy that he has left.

XD