Hey Mark, First off I can really relate to what you are feeling b/c I went through the exact same feelings when I started down this road 21 months ago. What you are feeling is normal. I just wanted you to know that.
There is no right or wrong path. Do what is right for you.
But realize, that if she wants a divorce bad enough she will get it. You cannot control that. You just need to determine what is best for you and your kids. That is hard given your emotional state. No one is suggesting you quit or roll over or not stand up to her. Will "refusing to cooperate" yield a positive result for you? Are there other alternatives?
Yes you are growing up and learning to be strong. Use your courage to do the best things for you and your family. Use your honor to *know* that you are doing right. Use your strength to follow through and to maintain your boundaries, without resentment or revenge.
Go to a park, clear your thoughts of her, and think about you. Right now you are letting her control you. Step back and examine things as objectively as you can. Maybe a path will reveal itself.
