H has left have I Done the right thing

[mkultra]

He is being selfish but you did the righ tthing. As far as I have read staying under the same roof and acting as if makes it very hard for the WAS to leave especially if you did show him that you were happy. He is being selfish and needs to do some soul searching in his mind. Now so do you, once again! I am so sorry but do not get desperate. You must agree to whatever he wants and says short of divorce. I also feel like 99, that I may be in a different frame of mind but your sitch sounds hopeful but he is in such a fog. I had a similar discussion with my H but it was H that wanted to live as roommate for the kids. A series of events that probably included an EA that he needed to have permission to make into a PA occurred. I stil do not know the timeline of my H's affair but sometimes they just want permission to sleep around. That may sound crass but they can be like dogs that way. You need to GAL and show him that you could get another man. Think Beyonce's song IRREPLACEALE. That will let him see you as a desirable person. Sometimes spouses do not see how desirable their spouses are until someone else affirms it. That usually cures that ILYBNIL scenario.