I do not post very much, and this question may belong in the piecing forum, but this is where my few posts are so I decided to ask this here. Also, I know there are others here who are reconciling and I value your opinions!
Without going into the whole sordid sitch, my XH and I are starting to reconcile. I've never been really sure if he was having a MLC, but certain things "fit", so I'm not sure how to handle the physical affection aspect of reconciling. At different times, my XH will give me a hug or a kiss when he leaves, but not very often. Do I keep letting him initiate that or is it okay if I do sometimes? I don't want to pressure him or do anything to make him uncomfortable so I haven't initiated anything. Sometimes I feel that he is waiting for me to give him a hug but at the same time, I don't know if it's my feelings of wanting that affection--the bottom line is that I don't trust my instincts on this because I want it too much.
The times he has given me a hug or a kiss or both is when he thinks I've probably gone beyond being just nice. He had knee surgery two weeks ago and he asked that I go with him and I did. When I brought him back to his house he gave me a hug and a kiss and told me how much he appreciated my being there, etc. Since then, he's come over almost every day, but has not given me a hug or a kiss when he's left. I walk with him outside to his car and he gets in and usually there's some small talk and he'll tell me that he'll call me later and then leaves. Should I just leave it at that and be patient or do I initiate a hug/kiss goodbye?
I would really appreciate anyone else's experiences and opinions.
