Hi PS, I am glad things have settled down for now. You know it is just a matter of time before you push each other's buttons again, so just be prepared for that. In time, I do believe your H will continue to clear, and he will become more of a solid presence for you. As you know, it all takes time, and it doesn't follow a straight course. And after all that, you get to a place where you aren't sure you trust the changes, so you rock the boat just to see how safe it is. This stuff goes on and on...but it does get better. I've been here a longgggg time, and I am still not out of the woods.
On thing you have going for you is that you and H have been able to make your sex life work. Let me tell you, this is major! My H has said that he didn't know if those feelings for me would come back ( they did), and I continue to struggle with low desire at times and my overall ability to simply embrace him, after all the turmoil and damage. But I continue to work at it!
