H has left have I Done the right thing

[Evie]

I have been posting over in MLC & Piecing and now I need to post here.

Brief update on my stich:

Bomb 8/5/07, ILYBNILWY, grown apart, didn't love me as a husband should. Went abroad 2gether as a family in July. H didn't want to talk about the M while away or even since. He has only ever said that there are no issues but we have grown apart. He said he has worked on the M but I haven't noticed any evidence of him trying, I think he has just tried to 'fix' himself.

End of Aug another R talk, H said feelings hadn't changed. When I asked him what he wanted to do he said he would look for somewhere to live and move out. I asked him to stay and live as friends but he said it wouldn't work. However he didn't move out. I was acting 'as if', DB, read 5LL, we were getting on great, no itimacy etc. Then he really started to live as friends, like a single selfish bloke, I couldn't cope with this new change, I felt he had turned the corner, he seemed much brighter, like he had made a decision that he was ready to move on but without me, he started to go to the cinema alone, he wouldn't go out with me at all. Finally, i reached my timeline and asked him last wednesday why he was avoiding me and he said 'well things arn't right are they? I'm here b/c you asked me to live as friends, my feelings are still unchanged'. I said it wasn't working for me living as friends and unless he wanted to seek help or work at the M then I wanted him to move out on Saturday.

Now he has gone and I'm wondering if I have made a huge mistake??

If I had carried on as it was would he have recommitted ever? Would he ever have moved out? Generally when he makes his mind up to do something he never changes his mind back, so I don't think I stand a change now he has gone. He was a single man in this M for the last few years, he just didn't have the spine to walk away of his own accord.

He cried when he told my d's this morning, he said he loved me but not as a husband should (I was out with the boys). We haven't told them yet.

Please help me with this mess in my head.