LO, I'm in the same boat as you. It gets quite choppy at times, huh?
Originally Posted By: lovelyolive
He feels like he has invested himself so much in his R with ow that he can't get out. What do I do with that???
Sooner or later our spouses have to make a decision. Perhaps they already have, or are leaning our way, but don't know what to do with OW. I think my H is afraid of hurting her. No matter how it ends, they need to realize that people are already hurt and that's how it will end. There is no good way to do it. They just have to decide to do it and GET IT DONE.
I have to put up with calls from the OW, too. She is pursuing quite heavily. From a couple comments my H has made, he gets fed up with it sometimes. At times, she just calls just to chit chat. Like last night he was making soup, she called just to find out how it turned out.
I think everyone is right, let them pursue, let them damage themselves and the relationship. We have to be fun, loving, patient and give our H space.
In the meantime, no matter how much she calls, I quite content knowing that I am the one cuddled up to him at night, especially now that the nights are getting colder. And she is not. That brings me great satisfaction.
