I think some of what is throwing him her way again is that he can go over to her house any time he wants to now that her XH is gone. So, she's luring my H there with requests to "help around the house". Playing the helpless divorcee'card. Then, once there, she acts like she's his wife by making him lunch, giving him leftovers for tomorrow's lunch, buying him gifts, etc (UGH!).
Right when the D was final, there was this flare-up of him making excuses for where he was in the evening.. the usual lies of ommission. But since I called him out on that stuff and told him how much I hate a liar, he seems to not know what to do. Even when asked point blank "do you want a divorce?", his answer was "I don't know". He feels like he has invested himself so much in his R with ow that he can't get out. What do I do with that???
