Neph, Neph. Um, I am not sure what to say. OK. No more snooping. Second, do not make any contact with O?W because the power thing is true. If OW does exist as you believe than any contact will make H protect her and H needs to protect you and your kids. There are ways of turning the tables so that he comes to your defense and OW is the perp.
Send a "you" message from now on.
"You must have felt very empty to leave your home and your integrity."
Do not send OW any messages. You need to be the enigma to OW. No one can compete with the wife. Wives are always the irreplaceable, beautiful, tragic, mothers with the stronghold to entice the H's back away from the OW. Wives are the favored ones of the family and the friends. Stay beautiful and mysterious. Maybe one of the reasons WS's have affairs is because WS feel they have low self esteem as if we are too good for them. Let OP suffer not knowing. Seriously, rise above that Bullshit.
It must be extremely real and enraging to see them together but they have been together in reality dozens of times already. It is meaningless. OP are not the focus or the issue. They are interchangeable nothings, pawns in aiding a MLC. If you must know they are together, than they are together. These affairs only last a while and they go out in a blaze usually. Do not assist in making it last longer by pushing them together with negativity and snooping. You are going to have to DB like crazy now.
It is good that she is afraid of you. remember you said the same thing when you were young and naive. I am sure you were lied to and so is she. But somewhere mixed in the truth is your lost H. Our lost Hs! They truly felt that we kicked them out and they sought solace elsewhere. The question is can we offer them solace now?
They are too afraid of that answer too.
Last edited by mkultra; 10/13/0710:43 AM.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
