Is it time to cut him off?

[Trixi]

I am glad I made sense with my analogy. It seems that he is not wanting to accept responsibility and that he is leaving it up to me to make decisions so he can say "Well, 99 decided ______, so what was I supposed to do? Not my fault."

Regarding him owning half the house (if I buy one), at this point- don't think it would matter much. I am only going to put 5% down and I would have him sign a quit claim deed and it would be financed in my name. Plus, the 5% comes out of the sales proceeds that go against the bottom line of the assets less liabilities. I think it would just be a wash. Maybe I'm wrong...I'll have to do research.

I don't think I am playing games regarding moving on. To me, playing a game would be making an idle threat in order to manipulate him. The reality for me is that I feel stuck here. He wants to live in the house, I don't want to live here unless we are reconciled; I don't want to move twice (unless it's because we reconciled). I do not see any other way for US to know he picked ME and not the house.

It isn't so much that I am "moving on",either-- it's more like I'm caring for myself and creating a home for ME-if he wants to create a mutual, loving relationship- I am open to it. And if it turns out that is what he would like to reconcile then I sell the house or rent it out. (I'm inclined to renting it and considering it an investment.)

Who knows- maybe when I bring it up, he will have some other solution that makes sense--but given that he just recently said that I might need to go and buy my own house....well, I don't think he has a way to solve the dilema of him missing the house.