WII's comments about not accepting, well, anything she says right now is on target.
Don't try to "show" her or "lead" her to any decisions. If you need to catalogue the household items then do it for you. If you need something, then get it done...but because you need to not to influence her.
The talk about introvert/extrovert is something that I go throught all the time. I'm an iNTj, which means that I plan, and carry out but don't take input that well. I've worked really hard on that but it's still difficult. I don't "know best" and the best change for me has been in accepting that. LOL
Make sure to secure your finances in a way that shows good faith, but no trust, in your wife. Her lack of respect is owned by her and you're right, it's a comment on her own internal problems.
I can, in my little iNTj mind, estimate her thought processes now as she begins to enter panic mode. NOT PRETTY! She'll be angrier than a hornet and try just about everything to get her way. Stand firm. No more "nice guy" behaviour. You know your path, she's welcome to come along...for a little while, anyway.
Hope you have a good weekend.
It's 7C and sunny here. Busy weekend of ferrying the youngest daughter to gymnastics and birthday parties. It's been so much better down here than up near Göteborg with personal interaction and even an introvert like me gets to say "Hi" alot. Like that.
