So, he's not responsible for his actions--it's up to me to not allow him to use me; as opposed to him not using me...that bugs me. Here is the analogy. He's like a bank robber who says 'Yeah, I'm robbing the bank. The security guard is free to arrest me if they want.' Instead of saying "robbing banks is wrong." Does that make sense?
Absolutely. What He is doing, doesnt make sense. well, actually it DOES make sense... it's perfectly normal behaviour. for a 13 year old.
reguarding buying a house: fantacising, and imagining what it might be like "on your own" is one thing. but dont get sucked into an "EA" with a house right now, hmm? I think it's a bad move for you, on MANY fronts. Just one reason, is the legal reason. You shouldnt do that until you are at minimum, officially legally separated financially. Which is actually different from having a "legal separation" accmplished. Unless you have legally established a date of separation (which only happens once one of yu has been served with divorce or LS papers, AND the other one responds, AND agrees on the date f separation) then he will own half the house.
I dont think it's not good for yu to "play games" with moving on. You're supposed to be the sane one. If neither of you acts sane any more, then where will your relationship head?
(well, I suppose limited amounts of "insanity" from you, might make him feel forced into filling the void of 'sane spouse'. but... lets be sensible about the areas of insanity, shall we? )
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
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