What happens if you don't play the miserable game?
Are you okay with how things are now? I know that it can't be easy, in and out of the house...but can you continue with this? If not, can you just stay in the house and have her find her own place? Are financials an issue with this?
Are you the one wanting a resolution to the financial stuff, or her? I know you have said that you are done, but is it worth it now with the games she is playing? If it isn't, be still. If it is, let the games begin.....