CVA - thin PJ's & Massages

[Not Much Left]

Hey folks
Haven't really shared much lately...mostly because I was tired of writing about my emotions which don't seem to matter and the only way I seemed to keep control of them was to stuff them so to speak (that is a 180 for me and its actually helps me stop being negative)

But...

Got home from Vancouver, not caring too much whether I saw W or not. She is in a pissy mood which I try to blow off. Affects me negatively anyway.

Then today I go to check our financial accts, which I do as normal course biz every week, and figure out she has been trying to access them with no luck. Pt #1. I have absolutely no problem with it in fact I wish she knew more so she would not wonder what is happening with them, but I had to "figure out" what was happening because she had frozen the acct with too many failed password tries and so I had to then spend time going on the computer at the house to make sure it was her vs a fraud thing.

Then the mail comes with a new credit card just for her. Hmmmm, Ms. Independent? Fine, I have been totally transparent with all this money stuff, not curtailing anything in terms of spending, and she is basically going around me on this stuff. What is BS about it is that it is our money, she has full discretion as it is. Therefore I conclude this is setting up for her to be on her own.

Reality is about to smack her in the face so to speak. I could yank all this money stuff quickly so needless to say...
CVA IS FURIOUS! I don't even want to be around her now then this happens and it just compounds my desire to come to some resolution sooner than later.

I am out with the boys (on purpose) and not certain what I will do when I get back to "her" house. It is clearly not my house anymore.

I know the right thing is to just say "hey, that's great, glad you are looking to be more financially independent and taking this seriously" or some other BS supporting statement.

She is aware I am unhappy right nmow and likely to piece it together when she see the credit card envelope open. She may even accuse me of opening "her" mail. If she does, the gloves are off.

I have been supportive and "relatively" mature about being thrown out of my house, no question asked. It may be time.

2x4s welcome

C