Gotta echo Nugget's comments here, in order for the two of you to be a happily married couple again you first have to be friends. Friendship is the foundation that any healthy relationship is built upon. Without it you are just roommates at best.
Honestly it's a concept that I struggled with because for a good while I felt like it was an insult to me and the love I have for my wife. But I finally came around on the idea and realized the truth. I viewed her still as my best friend yet she didn't view me as even a friend. So right now we are working on being friends again and it does feel good. Oh I will warn you though, the unexpected expectations can be rather difficult to deal with. What I mean is as you begin to see some forward movement you'll probably want huge leaps and her to come around and it all be better. Uh it doesn't work that way and don't fall into that trap because it'll end it all faster than you can blink. Luckily she's still around after two failed attempts at restoring friendship. So far the third is going much, much better.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
