Hi Sandi2, just a quick note on whats been happening in the last few days. My W told me wednesday morning that she was going out to dinner with a coworker that nite, and i told her to have a good time. It was well past 8pm and she still wasnt home and I had some neck and shoulder pain, so I went to my bedroom to lie down, as the pain is much better. I dosed off and woke up late and realized that I didnt see my W when she came home. Oh well, I figured that I would see her in the morning. She has been leaving early b/c of her work sitch, and I missed her again thursday morning. Went to the doctor thursday and he gave me ultram, and wants me to go see and orthopedist next week. I just made sure when she came home thursday nite to ask her how her day was and told her that i was having neck pain wed nite and had to go lay down. No big deal, and she started talking about her day. She then proceded to tell me she was going away with a girlfriend for the weekend, and I kind of acted a little surprised, which I shouldnt have done. I then said that she should go and have a good time, and then i dropped the subject. The biggest problem with her going away is that the gal she is going with and hangs around with at work is divorced and remarried, which in itself is no big deal, but everytime my W would talk about our R in counseling, she would bring up this person and how she is doing ok and that she is such a good friend and she is helping her through her difficult times. I dont trust this friend, and I still think that if she continues to surround herself with negativity, she well never come out of her funk. Most of the women she works with are divorced. I can only imagine that they are telling her to dump her sob H. Oh well, one reason my W was going away was that my S was not coming home for the weekend, and guess what? He called me a little while ago and said he was coming home b/c he has to load something onto his computer, plus he needs to study, something that he probably wouldnt do if he stayed at school. Well my S and I and my sister no less, are going to a football game tonite and we are going to have a good weekend. I have decided that whatever my W does I cant control, so to --ll with her and I will stay positive. Maybe I am looking at this the wrong way, and maybe my W will use this weekend to recharge and want to work on the M. I can only hope. Forgot to mention that i talked to the doc about my W and the D, and he said that he had wished he had known before he saw her, that he would have brought up menopause as a normal conversation that he would have. He did assure me that in the 25 years as a doctor, most of the menopause problems pass and that she would probably be herself after a while. But at least, if she has to go back to him, he can bring up the subject. Have a great weekend, and I will talk with you later.
