1600 students are 3 (or more) times the population of this little town..... Many of the students at our school are brought in from other towns and a near by state.....
When I visit large populated areas, I begin feeling this sensation of too many rats chasing the same piece of cheese.... it's just too stressful on me.
Love,
Laughing
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
Laughing, Hang in there. Things have been a rather mixed bag for you the last couple of years, but there has to be an end to this madness and hopefully in the very near future.
Your son is going to miss home. Right now, from what you've described, he sounds like he's in a crisis himself. Give him plenty of space, but continue to send him your emails. You are going to have to treat him as you would an mlcer--plenty of space, but have the safe haven available. I don't think the two boys will be able to live together for very long. Your son is going to get very tired of not having an adult to interact with and also being on his own for long periods of time. Your son has been use to you being there and bouncing things off of. I promise you, he's missing that. Right now, he can't admit it because of pride, but pride can crumble in a flash. So, be prepared to listen and be there for him (which I know you will).
What about you? How are you doing? How is your daughter doing?
I hope that you can find some peace this weekend and can work on something that you enjoy doing.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Yes and no.... I have heard from S, but it hasn't been much. He seems to be avoiding his sister and I. I've heard from his old girlfriend, who he is speaking with, and from what I understand he has been talking to two guys, who he has been friendly with. S hasn't spoken with the kids he used to hang with or "best" friends... but a month or so after coming home from the summer visitation, he drifted from them and began to hang with the others.
It may or may not be another sign of some problems or it may be a sign of some changes or growth. I'm just going to give him the space and pray, pray, pray that he finally reaches out to talk with me soon.
Love,
Laughing
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
D and I are more or less faking it until we make it. It's not that what we are doing is fake, we are just adapting to our new situation, and trying to focus on the positives.....
I know I feel a bit unbalanced, as it feels unnatural for me. D is amazing..... she is trying very hard and being very patient. As I've said before, I have a lot to learn from her.
I do have fears about Dick being able to put on a good show for S, until December 18, the day of the continuance. Yet, I do know Dick can't keep his mask on for more than 2 weeks either.
I just hope there isn't any long term problems with S, and he does want to come home soon.
D and I are still working on the house and trying to make it more a home.... we are focusing on better things for tomorrow.
Have a wonderful weekend...
Love,
Laughing
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
Laughing, Give your son plenty of space and time. Your love will provide his a soft spot to land. He's not ready to land just yet, but he will be.
You have to remember that your son hasn't been around Dick for a long period of time and he's trying to win his father's admiration and validation. This is a brand new adventure for your son, i.e., he thinks he has his dad to himself for a while w/o your daughter being around. But, the euphoria, just like any euphoria will wear thin and that brass ring will most definitely begin to tarnish. Time is on your side. Sit patiently and the answers will come.
It's a positive sign if your son is communicating with a few of the kids back in your area. At least he didn't cut all ties and those connections will be what helps him to decide to return. He'll miss all of the fun and activities that they are particpating in.
I know it's got to be difficult for you and your daughter right now, but both of you will support each other and what feels like time creeping along, will not be so once you can adjust to him being away for a bit. Laughing, he will return home. There's a reason that God pull this rabbit out of the hat and maybe it is to expose Dick's behavior to your son, after all of this time. We just don't know, but God will watch over your son and he will guide him along the way. I have a lot of faith in him.
Take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Laughing - I have thought many times that my girls will one day figure out what their father really did. They are a little young now, but they are smart.
Right now they are trying so hard to win his approval. One day, when they mature and do finally figure him out, they won't care about his approval. When this time comes, I bet he will be begging for theirs....
