Yes, I can see your point about keeping the changes small; but we have kept things relatively small thus far and it seems pretty easy to fall back into old habits.
The town where I want to buy is growing leaps and bounds and my thought is that *if* he changes his mind in the future, we can use the house as a rental. I don't think that the rent would cover the entire mortgage, BUT if I am going to make enough money to pay to support myself, then I will be making enough money to make up the difference between rent and the mortgage.
The trail for reconciliation will definitely be there. Heck, if he met a woman who owned her own home, I am sure he would date her if he was interested in her. If I own a home does it make it *easier* for us to reconcile? No. Does it make it impossible? No.
Will the effort that he would have to put forth assure BOTH of us that he wants ME? Yes.
Maybe I *am* crazy- I dunno. If I have to move to an apartment or rental house and I don't get to have the ability to "nest", then it will be *me* that misses the house and becomes resentful of the continued limbo. A rental by it's very nature is limbo. I am afraid I will become so angry at living in a rental that *I* won't want to reconcile.
The only thing I am not sure about would be the legalities. And in that respect, I guess it does sort of set the stage for a divorce. However, I could look at as me purchasing a rental investment and living in it for now. Hmmm...that one I could wrap my head around.
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
